“I love my friend and said he loves me too. We were in love for 5 years, but we never told each other. We come from very different cultures. At last I told him of my feelings, and he said he loves me too. He said it is impossible for us to be together. I cried and asked him to give me a chance. He said that he will be here for me, but he does not want me to destroy my life for a relationship that might not happen. I still love him so much. He said we are friends and maybe one day we will be together but for now I must live my life and enjoy it. What should do? Please don’t tell me to leave him.” Sorour
Thank you for your question Sorour. I am going to only answer one part of your question as I believe it is the most important part. While there was more to your question the part that is important to consider is “Please don’t tell me to leave him”. As a Psychologist it is not our place to tell you what to do. Our role is help you think through your situation in order to get better at making your own decisions. If a Psychologist just gives you their opinion about a situation it does not allow you to develop the skills, you need to problem solve. My goal in a situation like this would be that during therapy you would come to your own decision about whether you should leave him or stay with him. Once you have the skills to make this decision you will also be able to use them in other areas of your life.
