Is it normal that you love your partner, everything is okay in 8-months relationship (not perfect, but having honest conversations and working on things that we know we need to change), but when you think about future/long term commitments you feel only anxious, not excited (e.g. move in together)? Selene

Thank you for your question, Selene. Yes, feeling anxious in a relationship is a common experience for many people. Relationships can bring up strong emotions, and anxiety is a common response to uncertainty and vulnerability. Some common causes of relationship anxiety include:

• Fear of rejection or abandonment.
• Insecurity about the future of the relationship.
• Trust issues or past experiences with failed relationships.
• Pressure to meet expectations or conform to societal norms.

If your anxiety is so strong it is affecting your daily life and well-being, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or psychologist. They can help you address and manage your anxiety and provide tools and strategies for improving your relationship.

Relationships can be a source of both joy and stress, and feeling anxious about the future or the status of a relationship is a normal response to uncertainty or fear of losing what is important to us. It’s important to communicate openly with your partner and work together to address any concerns and build a healthy, secure relationship.